A woman asks what she should do about a guy that promises to meet with her over and over again but then doesn't. He also picks fights with her and acts in strange ways that don't make sense to her. Since he keeps saying they will meet, she is confused. She expressed that she wanted to show up at his office unannounced to catch him off guard and get a straight answer out of him.
When you're the one in this situation, the signals a person is giving off can be confusing. We tend to excuse people's strange behavior in order to give them the benefit of the doubt because we like them and believe they like us too. We've all been there at least once in our lives.
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Here's what I said to her:
Regardless of whether he is a player or scared, think of how you've been feeling. Are you happy most of the time or feeling sad, confused and unhappy most of the time? This is the biggest indicator of what you should do about a person in your life.
You've made several clear attempts to communicate with him, which he dodged and was not upfront with you on his strange behavior. This is a huge sign that he does not respect you, your feelings, or your time. In short, he doesn't care. Consider how a man acts that cares about people. Would he do these sorts of things?
He is the type of guy that will go wherever with whomever as long as it suits him and makes him happy. Is this the type of guy you want to be with? Also, if he is acting this way now and you barely know him, how is he going to act later on if you were to have a relationship with him? Typically, people start to let their guard down over time and any negative traits from the beginning only tend to get worse, unless the person is into personal development.
I would suggest thinking about not wasting a second more of your precious time on these kinds of games. You are worth more than that and by walking away cold turkey you'll be giving yourself that respect.
I can't advise on whether you should go to his office or not, but the more energy you put into him the more he will feed off of the attention, good or bad. Maybe a girl's night out, or a date with a new guy might be much more productive for creating a happy life for you!
Good luck, I wish you the best!
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Thanks for reading! Do you have a time in your life where a potential partner acted like this and confused you? What did you do about it?
Copyright © 2013 Soul Our Power
When you're the one in this situation, the signals a person is giving off can be confusing. We tend to excuse people's strange behavior in order to give them the benefit of the doubt because we like them and believe they like us too. We've all been there at least once in our lives.
~~~~
Here's what I said to her:
Regardless of whether he is a player or scared, think of how you've been feeling. Are you happy most of the time or feeling sad, confused and unhappy most of the time? This is the biggest indicator of what you should do about a person in your life.
You've made several clear attempts to communicate with him, which he dodged and was not upfront with you on his strange behavior. This is a huge sign that he does not respect you, your feelings, or your time. In short, he doesn't care. Consider how a man acts that cares about people. Would he do these sorts of things?
He is the type of guy that will go wherever with whomever as long as it suits him and makes him happy. Is this the type of guy you want to be with? Also, if he is acting this way now and you barely know him, how is he going to act later on if you were to have a relationship with him? Typically, people start to let their guard down over time and any negative traits from the beginning only tend to get worse, unless the person is into personal development.
I would suggest thinking about not wasting a second more of your precious time on these kinds of games. You are worth more than that and by walking away cold turkey you'll be giving yourself that respect.
I can't advise on whether you should go to his office or not, but the more energy you put into him the more he will feed off of the attention, good or bad. Maybe a girl's night out, or a date with a new guy might be much more productive for creating a happy life for you!
Good luck, I wish you the best!
~~~~
Thanks for reading! Do you have a time in your life where a potential partner acted like this and confused you? What did you do about it?
Copyright © 2013 Soul Our Power
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